There’s nothing as the perfect marriage; every union is filled with one loophole or the other. By now, those that are married should have attested to the fact that marriage is indeed a ‘Black Market ‘.
You never know what you have for real until the pack is opened. That being established, it is understandable for various issues to spring up when individuals come together as one. However, the success of each marriage lies in the ability of the individuals involved to work things out with love.
Below are some of the issues that generates into fights between couples
Self-Centered Fight
Jealousy Fight
Couples seem to have this fight regularly and different issues could cause it. Hanging out with friends over a spouse could unleash all emotions and cause a fight. Things could transcend to an awful depth when one partner feels out of place. Couples tend to be conscious when it comes to one of them relating with other people and helping them do things they wouldn’t do for their own partners.
Telepathic Fight
Some individuals naturally assume that their partners know what they want without making demands of them. When their partners fail to deliver, they spring a fight on them. Not everyone is telepathic; it would be difficult to know what’s going on in your spouse’s head. They can’t fix it unless you tell them. To avoid this fight, try carrying your partner along and letting them know what you want and what you dislike.
Transfer Of Aggression Fight
Some couples fight when they air out their mood on their partners. Making your partner pay for someone pissing you off at work is not fair. They try taking out their anger on their spouses and snap at the smallest thing done. If the other partner doesn’t have a wide tolerance for things like that, a major fight could ensue between them.
Money Fight
Lots of couples fight over money; the amount of money spent and the purpose on which it is being spent cause fight between couples. This occurs mostly when couples share joint accounts and take money out of it for their needs. A partner may be prudent while the other could be extravagant. A dress may be expensive to buy while it is legit to have money fuelled into hosting friends for the man’s party.
Sex Fight
Sex is important in marriage; for many, it is the ultimate thing to be done regularly in marriage. Some couples fight over not being intimate with each other. Some calculate weeks and days in which they had sex last. This is a serious fight for many as it could lead to either one of them cheating if not settled.
Privacy Fight
Some individuals are highly principled. They find it annoying for their partners to go through their stuffs without telling them. Their partners are expected not to spy on them and check their messages without them approving it. To avoid this fight, know what your partner detest and avoid doing them.
Fight For Attention
Everyone loves attention. Couples fight when they feel like they aren’t getting enough of their partner’s attention. They assume their attention is being held by someone or something else when they are being ignored. There should be a balance in everything; your partner shouldn’t feel cheated just because you are busy.
Meddling In-Law Fight
Now this is some serious fight. Many couples fight because their in-laws wouldn’t let them live their lives. Some visit all the time; depriving the couples of their privacy. Some even try to take major decisions for them. The partner whose family members visit often may see the other person as being hostile and not ready to accept those people. Couples should understand each other and take decisions as a unit to avoid this fight.
Divided Attention
Most couples fight when they see their partners give them divided attention due to their concentration on innate objects like phones and games. Some people get engrossed chatting, keeping up with social media, playing games and surfing the internet at the expense of their partners. Set a time to do these things to avoid fights.
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